Friday, 5 July 2013

Sabbatical Baedeker to Sanative Events - 04.07.2013



After all the brain cramping, stomach growling, hair falling, teeth clenching anticipation for the final paper. It just died with the imaginary sound of glass shattering in the back of the head. All hope was lost. Hours taken to decipher and understand simple social behaviour, ‘POOF’ just like that vanished.

The questions printed, messed the insides of the brains repeatedly. The decision making period itself gave off the aura that it’s a dead end. How does one simply understand what they did not learn during class? Is it the angle at which it was phrased? Well it was crap! Alright, to remain calm will only assist those who may have the ability to think out of the box and relate everyday life to ‘theories’ and hence be able to answer the already complicated set of questions.

Time took its time in rushing forward to the end of the examination. Hair was all over the place, just like the lion from ‘The Wonderful Wizard of Oz (1910). It felt like an explosion, an asteroid hit the head of Mervis. Wishing that with each strand of hair, there was the missing answer to the questions on the paper. Fat dream, like that would ever happen.

45 minutes to go before the end of the paper, not being able to pen down their thoughts, feelings, behaviour and perception is killing each and every one. Its fine, one can no longer bear the agony of sitting there staring at what seems like a hopeless cause. All they can recall are the everyday life experience that was shared during the lectures. It was difficult to even relate that to the theories as it seem.

Exiting the room, telling themselves, it’s alright there always is the sup paper. Well this is one of the moments when one simply gave up from the start no matter how much they tried to remember and understand before the course of the day. But all was almost forgotten when it was time to let their hair down and burn those notes.

It was time for the post exam celebration to take place. All assembled and discussed about how shit like the manuscripts had been while waiting for anyone missing to report to the assembly grounds.
Leading the bunch, the march towards Queenstown began. Onward they went laughing and talking about anything. Being the last paper and module for one of them, it paid off as a graduation celebration. Merrily having food at the ‘Makan Sutra’ and then a photo session, after which was bowled off with a game at the Marina Square Bowling Alley.

The following is a guide to post exam healing events before taking a sabbatical leave:
1.      Eat all you want then feel guilty for having eaten too much and expensive food and finally work it off with cardio.
2.      Participate in group events, meaning practice your team work, do not think that people should revolve around you alone. Activities that help with teamwork;
a.       Bowling
b.      Ice Skating
c.       Group Meals
d.      Paint Ball
e.       Road Trips
f.       Camping
g.      Virtual Gaming Nights
h.      Birthday Surprises
3.      Do not think that people understand your ‘I don’t think I can fit in well’ dialogues. If you want something come out clean and just say it. It’s either you do or you don’t.
4.      MIA is not recommended. Sometimes you need time alone, but you too need effort to hold to friendships and cherish what you created.
5.      Stop worrying about what and how others may think, feel, perceive about you. Being self- monitoring is taxing. So take it easy and go with the flow, be who you are, people will love you for that.
6.      Advice from someone who is awesome without any effort. Let go of worries and look forward to tomorrow. It’s only human to make mistakes in life as it only means that we are learning new things each time.
With that said, here is a graduation speech dedicated to those who have made life colourful during every painful and enjoyable lecture and assignment.
“Sadness, one feels to have come to the end of her diploma.
Regret, one does not for having met many interesting and warm characters.
Laughter, one will miss having with the many friends she found.
Emptiness, one will have for leaving the bonds she created behind.
Cherishing, one will till they meet again.
Remembering, for all the times they spent together.
‘ Forget me not!’ she bids them all till next time they are reunited!”
 
                                                                       - Mervis -

Mind Fuckery - 03.07.2013

As the sun sets making way for dusk to consume the air.
The temperature drops making the air chilly.
It made bones shiver and buttocks quiver.
The head looking down at a pile of papers spread out across the tables in a cold coffee place.
The eyes droop lower at the confusion of terms and theories.
The brains begin to lag at every intersection of a new theoretical explanation.
All soon fall victims to the academic indigestion.
It was sucking the life out of most and bringing a drought to the brains.
That was it, mental shut down of the neurology department. 
As the hours went on, honey mustard nuggets and virgin talk kept the spirit alive.
Learning more than what the books can teach that bromance will never be the same without the B.
That an innocent looking child may know more than you.
That one should check next door for the convenience store before heading across the street.
All in all, that life is about learning something new each time and it never ends with the books.
The vivid flashes of colours, details, insides, and deciphering the science behind social behaviour remain embedded in a memory capsule.
This pre- exam scenario will never be forgotten.

Wednesday, 3 July 2013

Drama - 02.07.2013


As the episodes play on with both the good and the bad, one begins to compare them and see what is left to be cherished. Love they thought it was when he asked her to be his. Smitten at how adorable, the question was brought up made her agree to a proposal which she did not realise will last a long time. Dates started off with movie nights and dinners which progressed to drunken nights under covers. The loneliness she used to feel led her to think that it was the right kind of love she deserved. When once upon a time, she found solace in the Vodka she had stashed away. 
It was loyal, and kept her company throughout the sleepless nights, and dreadful weekends. The replacement got her off all that vodka but still that loneliness lurked. Amidst the hearts and butterflies and the bees and the birds, the sense of feeling naked remained. The heart was preoccupied with impressing ‘her’ man, and mingling with the family and friends. The romance, the effort to lend a listening ear, show that genuine care and concern, forgetting who she was once upon a time. A life lived in denial is it worth the years sweeping pass? Comparisons, arguments, violence, tears, craziness, then came the moment. A single phrase said with the last breadth of care “I shall not care or bother about what you do anymore.” Life changed, priorities changed, happy with the education, the friends that surrounded her, her parents by her side, it felt right, it felt like it was all that she needed now and she wanted it to last. But when was it time for her to tell him? The thought was stuck in her chest, pulling her down with each breath, blocking the mind from focusing right. It made her sick to the bones, nausea accompanied the uneasy feeling. Finally, plucking that courage, it was initiated, that they should talk about them.
As Mary J. Blige sings,

So tired, tired of this drama
No more, no more
I wanna be free
I'm so tired, so tired

Broken heart again
Another lesson learn
Better know your friends
Or else you will get burned
Gotta count on me
Cause I can guarantee
That I'll be fine
No more pain (no more pain)
No more pain (no more pain)
No drama (no more drama in my life)
No one's gonna make me hurt again

Why'd I play the fool
Go through ups and downs
Knowing all the time
You wouldn't be around
Or maybe I like the stress
Cause I was young and restless
But that was long ago
I don't wanna cry no more
No more pain (no more pain)
No more game (no more game messin with my mind)
No drama (no more drama in my life)
Nooone's gonna make me hurt again
No more tears (no more tears, I'm tired of cryin everynight)
No more fears (no more fears, I really don't wanna cry)
No drama (no more drama in my life)
I don't ever wanna hurt again
Wanna speak my mind, wanna speak my mind

Uh, it feel so good
When you let go
Of all the drama in your life
Now you're free from all the pain
Free from all the game
Free from all the stress
So find your happiness
I don't know
Only God knows where the story ends for me
But I know where the story begins
It's up to us to choose
Whether we win or lose
And I choose to win


Monday, 1 July 2013

Travelling Thoughts 01-07-2013

As you take your seat, you stumble upon faces from all walks of life.
Serious, Animated, Stoned, Cautious, Tired,
all the expressions making your mouth curl up on one end.
A smirk forms on your face, studying the characters in full view.
Listening to their conversations, the sound of their laughter, the couples cuddling, and concentrated frowns of other bystanders, you are bewildered by the overwhelming amusement in the surroundings of a train cart.
Scanning every individual, you forget that the lens on the glasses does not prevent people from noticing your analytical glances.
Activity! No scratch that. Activities would be a better choice.
Noise! No that too. More like a noisy environment?
Movement at the corner of your eye in every direction you turn.
What would the world look like if everyone kept still, and silent, not engaging in any form of activity?
Would it look like the scene of the brutal faceless nurses in silent hill?
Would it feel dark?
Curiosity sparked as you indulge in the anatomy of human behaviour.
Is it by personality or upbringing?
Are we truly who we think we are or are we made to be who we are?
As questions bombard the neurotic senses, people notice you have been observing them.
They look at you.
You stop in your tracks and return a glance with a lost expression making them turn away.
But you still feel someone watching with cold eyes stabbing you from your blind spot.
Stop! You wonder as suddenly the activities around you seize.
People are not moving as much except for trying not to fall.
It seems to be synchronized like a dance at a masquerade themed ball.
Everything slows down except for you and time.
You feel the areas around you turn grey, leaving you the only one in a spectrum of colours.
Amazed at how life had just slowed down for you but not time.
Life becomes as complicated yet clear almost similar to the meaning of a painting in an art exhibition.
Then, snap!
Jolting awake as your journey has reached its end, at your destination.